Relationships these days always come with a lot of questions. Questions which might end up confusing us. Sometimes, we turn to act, behave or do the wrong things in our relationship which later becomes very catastrophic. Relationships are supposed to be calm, quiet and peaceful. Sounds pretty good, doesn’t it? So, the question is: how do you elevate your relationship to the mountaintop where all of that is possible? The next paragraphs focuses on teaching you the Do’s and Don’t in a relationship and this is exactly what you need to elevate your relationship to the mountaintop.
Don’t ask whether the relationship will “work out”
At times you spend time asking irrelevant questions which have very little to play in your relationships. Questions like “Is this relationship going to work out?. When you build a relationship on such questions, you turn to forget about the importance of building a happy and fulfilling life with your partner and focus more on designing a plan B. You may start thinking of looking for a backup(another person) so that you wouldn’t go through pains if your present relationship turns out to be a mess. I’m sure you know the future of such relationships. They will be little or no trust, and knowing that they is always a plan B, will make you ignore the original plan of building a successful relationship with your partner.
What to DO
Do ask what you can do to better the relationship. See your relationship as the best in the world and ask yourself what you can do to make it better. This way, you will be focusing on building a stronger and healthier relationship. When you start thinking this way, you start feeling more secured and also become determined to get the best out of your relationship. It’s a great step you need to take. So stop asking if your relationship will work out and start asking what you can do to make it better.
Don’t Step Back
At times, it’s tempting to want to step back when your partner is struggling. This struggles may be due to financial crisis or family and it might be the worst moments you’ve ever seen your partner in. During such moments, you’ll obviously ask yourself questions of “what I’m I suppose to do now?” or “How I’m I going to cope with such situations.” The Borden isn’t yours and walking away from the relationship might make you feel relief. But this is a temptation you should never fall into. Don’t step back when your partner needs you most.
What to DO
If your partner is experiencing challenging times, simply listen to their fears and frustrations without judgment. Stay present with them as they work through their struggle, reminding them that they are loved and supported by you. Be determine and ready to see them walk out of the problems in life with you being part of the game.
Don’t always put the blame on them
At times you might get into a fight with your partner which eventually might put you in a situation of frustration and disappointment. This might cause you to see only the wrong in them and believe they caused the problem. What usually happens is that, you turn to ignore the little mistakes you made that could have led to the fight. So Don’t always put the blame on them.
What to DO
If you’re feeling frustrated or disappointed with your partner, instead of pointing a finger of blame, turn the attention back on yourself and then, lead by example. Be the best “you” that you can be!
Don’t expect a miracle
Don’t expect miracles. If you haven’t heard from your love interest for six months and the last time you spoke they told you they were moving on, don’t expect the reading to reveal they will contact you in a week with apologies and professions of true love. Not going to happen. Stop asking.
What to DO
Do ask what you can do to heal and move on. When a relationship ends it can take a good while to sort it out within ourselves, to grieve its passing and the death of our hopes. We miss the other person. It hurts. We’re angry. We need closure. This is a process and sometimes we need direction and assurance. Learn to get over your ex and move on. Remember that when one door closes, another one opens just that at times we concentrate a lot on the closed-door that we forget to see the opened one.
The DO’s and DON’Ts are one of the most important things we need to focus on in a relationship.
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